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Difference between managing and harassing behavior

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There is a fine line between behavior by a manager that is legitimately harsh and within normal management
practices and behavior that could be considered harassment. For example:
  • How do you determine whether reprimanding an employee in front of his or her peers is harassment?
  • Are there certain criteria that apply to conduct that is considered to be harassment?
  • Can yelling at an employee in front of his or her peers be harassment?
  • What determines whether or not it is?
  • How likely is it that an employee who is disciplined under legitimate circumstances will complain of harassment?
  • How does an employer deal with this situation?
While there may be a fine line between management and harassing, this issue can be greatly simplified by simply focusing on ‘appropriate behavior’.
Instead of trying to define the line between managing and harassing behavior — corporations should focus simply on appropriate behavior. Something can be deemed ‘inappropriate’ more easily than the legal definition of ‘harassing’.
If the company’s only goal is to avoid legal ramifications, then that is one thing. But if the company’s goal is to provide an appropriate atmosphere for employees to be productive and inspired — then focusing on ‘appropriate’ behavior will be more beneficial to both management and employee.
Appropriate behavior supports and encourages calm, confident, and flexible leadership.
If management is confident that he/she can handle any situation that comes their way,  then there is no need to yell, scream or curse at any time.  Overreaction in this way tells more about employer’s ability then about the employee.
Inappropriate actions would include:
  • reprimanding an employee in front of his or her peers
  • blaming individuals or external environment for project status
  • requiring employees to consistently stay late to compensate for poor project management skills
  • defending one’s position on a particular solution against all other solutions
  • demanding that there is only one way to accomplish a shared goal.
If you focus on high-level appropriate reactions, then the legal line of harassment rarely comes into play.

This is Laura Lee Rose, a business and life coach that specializes in professional development, time management, project management and work-life balance strategies.  In my GoTo Academy: Soft Skill Tools for the GoTo Professional continuous online coaching series, I go into office etiquette on various real-world IT topics in detail.
If you are interested in more training in these areas, please sign-up for the continuing online coaching series.

If you haven’t taken advantage of your introductory time management coaching session, please contact LauraRose@RoseCoaching.info

If you can drive, you can understand project managing.

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If you can drive, you can understand project managing.

This is Laura Lee Rose, a business and life coach that specializes in professional development, time management, project management and work-life balance strategies.  In my GoTo Academy: Soft Skill Tools for the GoTo Professional continuous online coaching series, I go into office etiquette on various real-world IT topics in detail.
If you are interested in more training in these areas, please sign-up for the continuing online coaching series.
If you know how to drive, you already understand project management.  You may still not want to be a project manager, but at least you understand better their function and value.  In fact, project management and defensive driving have much in common.  Let’s look:

Road Expectations Project Management Equivalent
Traffic patterns and traffic rules Project ground rules, schedules, resources, budgets, etc
You cannot safely go faster than the car in front of your Critical path analysis and task dependencies
Everyone in your lane (even though they have a variety of destinations) really needs to be heading in the same direction Everyone on your team (even though they may have different motives) need to be heading in the same direction.
Car’s break lights are RED for a reason RED FLAGS on a project mean slow down; stop; and re-evaluate.
Motorist pull over for emergency vehicles Projects have recovery protocol charts and plans
Motorists merge temporarily into another lane to get around an accident. Project resources are temporarily redirected to past a blocking issue.
Traffic lights and signs are placed to control the traffic patterns and keep everyone in-synch and on time. Status reports and quality metrics are placed to keep everyone in-synch with the delivery schedule.
Motorists risk lives when they speed and ignore traffic rules. Employees risk the project schedule and create hostility in the team when they ignore the project rules.
Accidents and traffic tickets delay time to destination Defects and morale issues delay project delivery schedules
Optimal routes change depending upon road conditions, weather, traffic patterns, time of day traffic loads, and construction schedules. Projects often deviate from the original route because of various contributing factors such as: resource allocations, equipment failure, outsource/contract disputes, defects in components, scheduled maintenance and security upgrades, etc.
General motorist courtesy: slower traffic stays right, left lane reserved for passing only, leave enough space when you change lanes (no cutting off people), allow people to merge into your lane, etc. Project meetings have certain courtesy ground rules: No interruptions, allow everyone to speak their opinions, no arguing, allow the option to change direction (as long as the destination stays the same).
Yield the right of way Abide by the priority of the team goals (not just your own agenda).
Pedestrians have the right of way Keep the client perspective in mind at all times.  Project Managers need to also be a client advocate
Motorists encounter detours because of unexpected road constructions – but their final destination is the same. The natural flow of a project will have some detours – but the final destination always stays the same.
Getting angry at the non-moving traffic doesn’t make the traffic move any faster. Getting upset at the lack of visible project progress isn’t helping.  Either take constructive action or be confident that things will eventually move along.
Road rage Sometimes there is road rage in the boardroom or office meeting.  It’s as dangerous in the office as it is on the streets.
Texting while driving may cause something to be missed and end up in a fatality. Texting and multitasking in a project meeting will cause something to be missed and end in a delay in schedule.
Bridges ice first Project pieces not well grounded or rooted, are risky.  That is why you have Risk Analysis and Risk Management as part of the project manager’s toolbox.
Different cars handle differently on the road. All employees and resources are not the same.  You need to handle them individually.
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What we can learn from Judge Judy.

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Back in the old days (when I was growing up), daytime television was composed of soap operas.  Today it’s slightly different.  Today there are a plethora of judge TV shows.

Is there anything we learn professionally from Judy Judy that we can use in our career advancement?

      ABSOLUTELY!

 

 

 

Some of the things are:

  • Most disputes stem from miscommunications
  • Document expectations to reduce miscommunication
  • Answer the questions being asked
  • People get pissed-off when they think you are hiding something

To avoid miscommunication:  Paraphrase everything you think they are saying back to them. This gives them the opportunity to correct you or agree with you. Ask them to repeat what you say to them. This gives you the opportunity to see if they heard what you meant to say.

Document expectations:  Write down your agreement to include measurable criteria , who is responsible for what, and reasonable time line. Also include consequences on any missed goals and deadlines.  Sign and date.  If you verbally alter agreement, then document the changes, sign and date.  (For more information on Change Management Strategies, contact LauraRose@RoseCoaching.info)

Answer the questions being asked: I recently asked a vendor about their status on my project XYZ. They quickly told me the status of their project ABC.  That was nice, but I was interested and asked about my project.    The deflection frustrated me and I had to ask again.

People get pissed-off when they think you are hiding something:  The above Q&A repeated once again, until I lost patience.  I imagined that they had not spent any time on my project; and didn’t have any status to report.  Since I had a signed contract that identified expectations, time frames and consequences,  I was able to discontinued their service without payment and found a better fit.

How can you re-use these lessons in your profession?

 

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Using Game Theory to Navigate Business Obstacles

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Many of the strategies used in games can be effectively translated to business and professional navigation.  Find out how….

Notice the similarities between game play and office strategies:

  • Play by the rules of the game
  • Familiarize yourself with your opponents strengths and weaknesses
  • Understand the stats on your teammates
  • Accommodate for any handicaps on your team, and defend against the strength on the other team
  • Keep your ‘tells’ in check (Be aware of what your nonverbal cues and reactions are expressing)
  • Understand your options.  (You have more than one game piece on the board)
  • Continue to increase your skills and focusing on gaining additional game pieces
  • Take advantage that you have three lives.  (Be willing to take risks to learn how to get to the next level)

If you were to take advantage of just one idea — I recommend the multiple lives rules.

Most games give you multiple chances to advance. In baseball you get three strikes before you are out.   Even then you have more than one inning at bat.  In video adventure games, you have 3 virtual lives.  We grew up with the idea of multiple changes and taking gaming risks (gambling with our game pieces), but most of us are too timid to do this in the office.  Avoiding risks at the office translate into never going to bat (which means removing any opportunity for a home run).

Take the HOME RUN TEST to learn want steps to take to win at the office.

In my GoTo Academy: Tools for the GoTo Guy and Gal continuous online coaching series, I go into Time-boxing and the use of Parking Lot methods in detail.
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Whose job is it to take out the trash?

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Now a days both husband & wife go for work to run the house.They are unable to balance the work/life properly.  Below are some suggestions to balance work/life at home.

There are several techniques. I agree that a life coach (like myself) can help with work/life strategies. There isn’t a single ‘silver bullet’. And if the couple is open and willing to try different things and appreciate each other — things will smooth out.

Some things that work:
1) Take time to discuss your individual imperatives with each other (If you want a worksheet on how to create your non-negotiables or imperatives, email LauraRose@RoseCoaching.info)
2) Create a calendar that accommodates your imperatives. (If you would like more information on this, email LauraRose@RoseCoaching.info)
3) Agree not to worry if things are not perfect or don’t get done. The MUST DOs will always get completed. If the item doesn’t get done — it was incorrectly categorized as a MUST DO. So relax.
4) All chores can be written on index cards. Family members select the chores that they enjoy (or don’t mind) doing. The remaining chores, consider paying or bartering outside help. Just because something needs to be done — doesn’t mean that you have to do it.  If an item consistently doesn’t get done, move it to the ‘barter/pay for service’ area.  The paid service will do it faster and better than you can do it, anyways.
5) Schedule weekly date nights in your calendar. If it’s important to you, you should block the time off on your calendar. Even if you don’t know exactly what you are going to do — block the time in your calendar to make sure you make time for it. (Similar for vacation and family time).

Bottom line:  Consider your ROI  (return on investment) on these things.  Just because you can do it doesn’t always mean you should be doing it.  For example, if your salary is $60/hr and it takes you 3 hours/wk  to clean your house or handle your social media campaigns — then you have actually spent $180/wk on house cleaning or your social media campaigns.  Perhaps your time is better spent by hiring someone at $150/month.  It will get done faster, better and cheaper.

For more information on how to reduce your time and increase your results with social media campaigns, watch the “It’s a SNAP” video.

Take a deep breath and relax….everything is unfolding perfectly.

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In my GoTo Academy: Soft Skill Tools for the GoTo Professional continuous online coaching series, I go into these things in detail.
If you are interested in more training in these areas, please sign-up for the continuing online coaching series.

How a diet tip helped me get a work-related request accomplished.

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I know this sounds strange, but I used a diet tip that I read from Micheal Thurmond’s “6 Day Body Makeover”  – to accomplish career critical tasks.

The diet tip is about  ‘how you stay on your meal plan when you go out to eat’.  The tip suggest that if you want substitutions (for instance a healthier vegetable as opposed to a high-caloric side dish) – then peruse the menu for vegetables.  If the kitchen is already offering broccoli on a different menu entree, then it is more likely that they will not have a problem substituting broccoli for your side dish.  If you don’t see that vegetable on any of the menu’s entrees, it’s less likely that your request will be granted.

Yes — that’s a great diet tip, but what does that have to do with collaborating with others in the work environment?

Well — take this example:

I am a vendor for an organization.  This organization has not been proactive in promoting our series (of which they get a revenue share).  Since it’s to both of our advantage that this series is successful, I searched for low-hanging fruit items for them to implement to increase our exposure and promotion opportunities.  So — I did the following:

  1. Investigated what they are already doing for other vendors in regards to promotions.
  2. Mocked up similar buttons and video clips for our series.
  3. Proposed integrating these things along with the other things they are already doing.

Since they already had the mechanism in place for the other vendors, they had no problem slipping my things in that same mechanism.

How about this example:

You want to attend an out-of-town conference.  Your company has  a tight budget.  Although they will give you paid-time-off (without the cost of a vacation day), they didn’t initially approve the cost of the conference or travel expenses.  What if you did the following?

  1. Investigated which of your high-profile clients are also attending this conference.
  2. Contacted the sales/marketing person associated with those specific clients to catch up on any current issues and promotion opportunities.  Ask their opinion if their client would be interested in meeting the actual developer of their product (to discuss future and current feature lists)?  [Most clients jump at the chance to talk to a developer]
  3. Propose a technical support/sales event, such that with one trip (to this conference)– you can visit this specific list of high-profile clients.

What if you designed the proposal like that above?  Would you have improved your changes?

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Why Do Workers Keep Searching Out Jobs

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Two recent surveys found that a majority of full-time workers continue searching out job opportunities, usually online and often through social media. What are the pluses and potential pitfalls of being on the search continually.
There are often many reasons for job-window-shopping:
1) If workers are not satisfied with their current work environment, they will continually look elsewhere.
The advantage to this is that many people can handle a ‘bad working environment’ as long as they see a light at the end of the tunnel (a potential new position in the horizon).
2) People are always curious. We window-shop. We want to see what is out there. Like window-shopping, people like to compare their current wardrobe to see if anything is missing, etc. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they are wanting to ‘jump ship’. This is an advantage to everyone if you take this new desire and new knowledge to your manager to see if there are appropriate jobs opportunities in your current company that fits what is attracting you out there. Management would be prudent to hold frequent career development one-on-one meetings, so that they understand what their talented employees are looking forward to doing. It the employee sees that there is no ‘next step’ within their current company, they should feel allowed to look more seriously at their next step outside of their current company.
3) People need to feel valued and want to be continually challenged in their area of passion.  At a certain professional level, it is not ‘money’ that satisfies.  It is more likely to be a combination of money, autonomy and mastery opportunities that are more aligned with the individual’s passion and talent.  If management isn’t listening, they are likely to loose their most valuable employees — because it is the talented that walk and the weak that stay.
4) If management uses this opportunity to negatively affect the employee’s advancement opportunities, then management is short-sighted. The employee is doing what they need to do to create the most effective and efficient match between what they want to do with their careers and what they are actually doing with their careers. The employee is acting responsibly. Management would be acting responsibly by listening and reviewing current company opportunities that better match their employee’s talents and passion.
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How to judge appropriately

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The most misquoted verse in the Bible is probably Matthew 7:1, “Judge not that ye be not judged.”
It’s impossible not to judge.  Telling someone else  “not to judge” — shows you have made the judgment that they are judging.  Most opinions, descriptions, decisions, views, rulings, and critiques are judgments.
In the workplace, performance review and evaluations are judgments on both subjective and objective criteria.  Business decisions are based on market comparisons and our judgment on ROI (Return On Investments).  Project management schedules and delivery schedules are based on group opinions and past performance trends.

I’m not sure when ‘judging’ attracted such a negative connotation.  But we can’t take inspired action without allowing some level of judgment within us and others.

The key is to judge righteously and appropriately.

“Great!  So how does one go about judging appropriately?”

In my GoTo Academy: Soft Skill Tools for the GoTo Professional continuous online coaching series, I go into these things in detail.
If you are interested in more training in these areas, please sign-up for the continuing online coaching series.

Here are a few things to consider, when making a ruling (or judgment):

  • Be self-aware of any hidden agenda or expectations.
  • Use accurate data from multiple sources
  • Be wary of ambiguous and vague descriptions (indicators of innuendos, rumors and assumptions).
  • Disengage from the results (have no hidden agenda or expectations)
  • Don’t take anything personally
  • Give everyone the benefit of the doubt

The above steps seem simple enough, but how would we incorporate in the real-world?  Below are some common professional situations:

In my on-line coaching series, we use some typical employee complaints and frustrations.  Please add your frustrations to this list for practice.

  • My manager is not a people person.
  • My manager has never learned people skills.
  • My manager avoids confrontation at all costs.
  • My manager is showing favoritism.
  • My manager doesn’t like me.
  • My coworker is a racist and is lying about me.
  • My coworker is getting paid more than I am, and I’m doing more work than he/she.
  • My coworker is always submitting buggy code and it the reason my piece is late.
  • This company expects me to work 24/7.
  • This company won’t give promotions or any type of recognition.

Be self-aware of any hidden agenda or expectations.
Most of the above examples have a hidden agenda.  The ‘finger’ is consistently pointing to someone else. Maybe you know the saying, “When you point one finger, there are three fingers pointing back.   And this is the case in these examples. We create our own situations (good and bad).
Regardless of the specific incident, you have contributed to your current situation.  While blaming someone else provides some limited relief, it doesn’t really release you from your responsibility (your ability to respond).
Review your higher-level mission and what you can do to set things right.

“How could I have handled this differently? What can I do right now that illustrates my expert people-skills, my social skills, and my ease in handling conflicts and confrontations? This incident doesn’t depend on my manager’s people and social skills. This incident depends upon my expert people and social skills. My professional reputation is my responsibility, not my manager’s responsibility.”

Be wary of ambiguous and vague descriptions (indicators of innuendos, rumors and assumptions).
Ambiguity leaves the door open for innuendos, imagination and assumptions.  When you are use words like: never, always, mostly, chances are that you don’t really have your facts together.

Use accurate data from multiple sources
As you gather your accurate data, validate it across multiple sources.  Remember that each source may have their own agenda or personal perspective.  Relying on one or two sources with the same personal agenda

Disengage from the results (have no hidden agenda or expectations)

When you are collecting the data, disengage from the results.  When you have an idea of what you want the answer to be, you will often collect data that supports your expectations.  If you enter into the discovery phase with no expectations and an open mind, you are more likely to make appropriate judgments.

In my GoTo Academy: Soft Skill Tools for the GoTo Professional continuous online coaching series, I go into these things in detail.
If you are interested in more training in these areas, please sign-up for the continuing online coaching series.

Once Upon a Classic

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There is a fabulous fantasy series called “Once Upon A Time” that I admit I watch/tape.  I enjoy it because it takes the fairy tales that we all know and love — and re-arranges them a little.  It puts a different spin on the “same ole, same ole”.  It’s very innovative.  If you haven’t bumped into it — check your local tv listings for it.

So — what does this have to do with today’s discussion?  EVERYTHING!

Have you heard of the Butterfly Effect?  (if not — watch below video).  What can you do differently today — to put a little bit of a spin on things?  I’m not suggesting anything too dramatic.  But, what do you think would happen if you were to :

  1. Instead of always asking your kids “How was your day?  What happened today?”  — You asked them “What do you want to happen differently tomorrow? What are your plans for tomorrow?”
  2. Instead of always asking your co-worker “How is it going?” — you told them how much you appreciated their help in XYZ?
  3. Instead of always accepting a task that you don’t have time for — you were deliberate about your time and always honest about your current task list?  What if you periodically recommended someone else for a task that doesn’t fit your current goals?
  4. Instead of always secretly complaining about how a meeting is run — you were to step-up and facilitated one of those meetings?
  5. Instead of coming home always exhausted – you took the time to walk around your block before entering the house?  A brisk walk allows you to clear your head, get oxygen into your body and usually uplifts your spirit.  You will be greeting your family in a much better and energized mood.

What if you altered your habits just slightly?  What do you think would happen?
Watch this video on the Butterfly Effect — and let me what steps you are ready to take right now.

How To Say No/Tactfully Leave Volunteer Positions

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I recently received the question ” How do I say ‘no’ to volunteer positions I don’t have time for or don’t want?”
How does one tactfully leave a volunteer position that has become overwhelming, stressful, or is requiring too much time? How do I take better charge of my time in the new year?  Read on www.lauraleerose.com/blog
Although this is a common situation —this really isn’t as difficult as we often make it, if you truly understand and accept your value AND acknowledge all the opportunities there are to help.
CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE:
1) You are in the driver’s seat in a volunteer position.
2) Legitimate volunteer organizations appreciate your un-paid time, energy and talent. They don’t really want to do anything that would burn your bridges with them. The ‘tact’ responsibility is therefore, on their side; not yours.
3) Any time, energy, attention you can provide is appreciated with nonjudgmental hearts, at any legitimate volunteer organization. Volunteer organizations do not expect these volunteers to be long-term. It’s not how they work.
4) Volunteer organizations expect short-term stays and large turn-overs. Retention rates are 0. They are equipped to handle this. It’s not a big deal to them. This is in their wheel-house. So – don’t make it a big deal. Don’t make it personal.
4) If it has become too time consuming and overwhelming — this is on you. Therefore, consider reducing your hours or limiting your task responsibilities. Volunteer organizations are appreciative of any level of assistance. They are not the ones telling you that you need to put in these hours or do these tasks.
5) If you can not assist at all at this time, don’t apologize for taking care of yourself. You can not help others if you aren’t taking care of yourself. Things change. Lifestyles and events ebb and wane. Volunteer organizations understand this and they do not take it personally.
6) The volunteer organization has the entire community as a resource; you have yourself. They have better opportunities to fill their positions than you have in accomplishing your personal goals. Therefore, offer to keep an eye out for other people that might like to volunteer for them. Continue to refer others. Although the work needs to be done, it doesn’t have to be done by you. Helping them to find a replacement will be of value to them (although I would not agree to stay in that position until they find a replacement. Doing this gives them no incentive to find a replacement).
7) Realize that if the work you are doing is truly a MUST DO for their organization — they will find someone else to accomplish that task. If they don’t have someone to replace you — that means it wasn’t a MUST DO in the first place.
Sometimes (but not all of the time) it’s not the volunteering that you don’t have time for — it’s the way you are going about it. The way you can make a difference is unlimited.
Volunteer differently:
1) You can reduce or limit your time or tasks — so that it does fit your current lifestyle.
2) You can ask them to contact you in 6 months (or whenever you feel you will be able to donate again). Or contact you when they have a special occasion that needs some extra hands.
3) Consider re-aligning your tasks to support your own career and professional goals. If you are a software developer, then instead of agreeing to clean out the cat-litter at your local ASPCA — offer to work on their website. If you are in marketing and sales — offer to handle their promotions and marketing projects. Integrate your volunteering directly into your professional business development plans.
4) Refer both business opportunities (money making opportunities) and other volunteers to this organization.
5) Use your social media contacts (i.e. facebook walls or linkdin contacts) and blogs to tell people about your experience at this volunteer organization. Ask this organization is there are specific highlights or emphasis that they would like you to publicize.
6) Donate a portion of your Visa or Mastercard Reward Points to this organization to show your appreciation. Since Reward Points really don’t cost you anything — suggest that they create a Reward Point Donation center…such that others can easily donate a portion of their reward points.
7)Offer to keep an eye out for other people that might like to volunteer for them. Continue to refer others.
If you relax into the knowledge that volunteering isn’t an off-on switch or yes/no opportunity, you will be more at ease with handling these types of changing situations. Stress often comes from limited thinking. For example: “If I help, I have to help this way. I want to help — but I can’t do it this way.” This causes an internal dilemma and therefore stress. Volunteer organizations are open to all sorts of collaborations. I recommend that you be open as well.